Recently, I found out that one of friends is clinically deppressed. I was in awe which quickly progressed to shock then to sadness. Am familiar with deppression(Hell, I was deppressed for most of my teenage life) but for it to get to a state where one needs medication is beyond me. And I always believed it was a hollywood fad anyway. But seemingly it's real.And though am strongly against it,if my friend doesn't take her medication she will not be able to live a normal life! But I still believe that this is not the solution. Am not asking her to wear rose tinted spectacles like I do to evade the harshness of life, am asking her to take the bull by its horns and face it. To face whatever she is going through and conquer it as opposed to sitting in a corner and being deppressed about it.
I believe she needs to take time off and speak to inner demons and make peace with them. Because,I believe that in order to walk through grief, fear, loneliness, despair, confusion and anger without recourse to drugs, alcohol, over-eating, over-sexing, or the endless mind-numbing distractions provided by Western culture, one must become a spiritual warrior.
I further believe that the pay-off for enduring suffering, for soberly embracing the inevitable bouts of emotional pain that life brings, is wisdom and serenity in the face of calamity.
But make no mistake here, the path of the warrior is treacherous and cannot be walked alone. To survive, she must have brothers and sisters-in-arms to carry her when she buckles. When we lived and died in small tribes, this principle of mutually supporting one another through the trials of life was deeply woven into the fabric of the group mind. With the advent of towns and cities we were forced to live with the daily dilemma of being desperately alone and yet desperately needing one another. Which is why we are, by design, always seeking new tribes.
With that in mind,dolls, I humbly offer a simple guideline to evaluate the efficacy of any tribe you might encounter on your path to becoming a spiritual warrior: if they ask for your money or access to your crotch, run away. If they ask for your money, smile unceasingly, never blink, and guarantee to make you a demi-god, running away will not suffice. Change your mailing address and briefly reconsider drugs, alcohol, food, sex and TV. Can I get an Amen?!